“For as you think in your heart, so you are!”

This is a powerful Proverb. It says it all. Proverb 23:7 tells us in plain English that everything is tied into our thoughts and what we are thinking at this very moment. What are you thinking right now? Does it matter? I mean really matter in and to your life at this very moment?  Does it? The answer is a resounding “YES!”

People don’t realize that what they think dictates everything else about them: mood, feelings, words, attitude, behavior, and even actions and therefore reactions.  Your thoughts and therefore your imagination shapes your life.  If you want to change any thing at all about you, you have to start with changing your thinking it first.

Let’s take the number one thing that almost everyone knows about or has tried at least once in their lives: Dieting.  There are so many diets out there that it is hard to choose one. It is just crazy. You don’t know which one will work for you.

Of course, if you are anything like me you choose the one that will cause the least amount  of change to your routine and food intake or eating habits and the easiest to do and if it fits into your budget.  You pick a pill.  Maybe it works for a while so you lose the weight you wanted to and you stop taking the pill. All of a sudden you start gain the weight right back.  You go back on the diet again, but this time it doesn’t work. What do you do? You look for the Next Diet…

Again, you go for the one that offers little change or effort, but doesn’t work.  You are not a gym person so what are you going to do.  You can always jump on the diet bandwagon of those diets where you have to buy their food and never cook your own food again.  Is that what you really want? Are you ready to face the truth? Now?

You need to change your thinking! Then you will lose weight.  Start living healthy, and whole lives. Do some sort of exercise program.  It does not have to be at a gym.  It can be as simple as a yoga/video workout at home. Study and read the Bible about being healthy. It has a lot of things to say about and fill you thoughts with all those good thoughts.  Pray and God will help fill you mind with good thoughts too.

I’ve not had a very good life, but it’s made me the woman I am today.  I was (and still am to a point) a very angry woman. (God’s still working on me.  Praise the Lord) I am now in my 50s and it has taken me until now to know that negativity will slowly kill you.  It will eat you up from the inside.  You can’t love if you are always negative.  You will be miserable in your own little bit of hell and make everyone around you miserble too. There is no hope there either. There is only fear and despear. There is hate there too.  Do you want that?

I don’t want that anymore, but I backslide sometimes and God corrects me sternly, but patiently.  I am blessed with a housemate that is very humble, kind, caring, and forgiving of my faults.  She has helped me more than she will ever know.  She has taught me and most likely will teach me a lot more in the future.  I just pray that I am such a good friend to her.  At least I try to be.

Now Positive thinking is something to grab a hold of  and not let go.  If you start to fill you mind with Bible verses and positive quotes and thoughts which you share with all your friends, you will push all those negative thoughts out of your head then your mood, feeling, words, attitude, behavior, actions and even reactions will change in a more positive way.  You just might start loving people and finding hope again.  People will start to see the change in you, and start gravitating toward you instead of away.  You will get a pep in your step and be a happier person all around.

Don’t worry……Be Happy!

 

 

 

Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be – Days 3 & 4

Please forgive me.  I was suppose to have this post up for you by last Friday, but sometimes life happens.  I am on track with the study, but writing the blogs is where I’m behind.  I am determined to get back on track in the coming weeks.

Meditate on God’s Word/ Be a Woman Worthy of Confidence

Scriptures of Week to Memorize

“A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has cull confidence in her

 and lacks nothing of value.”

Proverbs 31: 10-11

Passage of Day to Read – Day 3

“How can a young [woman] Keep [her] way pure?

be living according to your word.

I seek you with all my heart;

do not let me stray from your commanded.

I have hidden your word in my heart

that I might not sin against you…

I meditate on your precepts

and consider your ways.

I delight in your decrees:

I will  not neglect your word.”

Psalm 119:9-11, 15-16

Passage to Read – Day 4

“A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her

and lacks nothing of value.

She brings him good, not harm,

all the days of her life.”

Proverbs 31:10-12

Day 3

Do  you think you can become a Lawyer of any worth by just casually reading the law books? Well, you can’t!  You most likely would not even be able to pass the bar exam if you managed to graduate from law school.  I am told that you to put in almost as much study time as class time if not more.  The same is true when you are  becoming a woman of God.   You have to meditate and study and take it down deep into the fiber of our being what is the most important things to us and that is the Bible.  We are going to be standing  toe to toe with Satan’s onslaught of temptations, and we have to be able to have the  Word of God readily on our lips.

Matthew 12:34

“Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.”

The above is why we meditate on the Word and store it in our hearts so that it can flow from our mouth when we need it.

Remember:

Satan is the Father is lies!

The only way to cut through his lies is God’s Honest Truth.

John 8:32 states,

Jesus says: “You shall know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

The Most Important thing you need to do is Memorizing the Scripture.  The two main reason are as follows:

  1. Helps keep our thoughts pure.
  2. Less room for all other junk we usually have hanging around up there.

To help memorize and the only way to get Scripture into your heart mind and soul is by meditation. It has gotten such a bad rap now days . But we have to take it back. Meditation is a God thing first and foremost and a gift to us as His children.  He meant it as a very .important tool to be used for our transformation, not by a new age gurus.

When you do your Meditation:

  1. Take time to think about what you are memorizing.
  2. Pray over the words even as you say them over and over again in your head.
  3. Ask the Holy Spirit to teach you the meaning and application of each word.
  4. Let His instruction begin to transform who you are and how you live.

Affirmation: 

I meditate on God’s Word day by day.

Day 4

The Proverb 31 woman has the full confidence of her husband because she doesn’t bring him harm, but good all the days of her life. God is our spiritual husband.  Each and everyone one of us:

“For your Creator will be your husband;

the LORD of Heaven’s Armies is His

He is your Redeemer,

the Holy One of Israel,

the God of all the earth.”

Has the thought ever crossed your mind about causing good and no harm to God?  What does it mean to cause harm to God?  What’s the first thing that comes to your mind that will cause harm to not just an earthly husband but also to God? Think hard…..How about good ole fashion jealousy!  You know the kind…..where you pursuing other exculsive relationships.

Matthew 22:37-39 KJV

Jesus said unto him, “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.

This is the first and great commandment.

And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love they neighbour as thyself.”

This shows you how important God takes His exclusive relationship with you.  He wants to know you inside and out. He also wants to be your one and only.  He loves you totally and completely.  He created you with loving kindness and care and He is there for you no matter what you have done.  He knows everything about you and still loves and chose you to be His.  He sent His Only Begotten Son to DIE for YOU and ONLY YOU so you can come back HOME to HIM.

Adultery means a person is pressuring other relationships and priorities more than God. He is your Spiritually Husband, and He will not take kindly to you having other relationships more important than Him.  He wants to be first in your life.

Matthew 6:33

“Jesus said, ‘Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness.”

When we get our priorities mixed up and take our eyes off God — we bring Him harm!

But in contrast, by living  in full confidence of the Lord, we bring only good to God.  A good wife is someone who does the right thing even when her husband isn’t watching who remains faithful and diligent no matter the circumstances.  She is trustworthy`

The Bible tells us in Luke 12:2-3 that in no uncertain terms that those words spoken or deeds done in the dark or secret will come out into the light or shouted from the housetops at some point in time.  This shows that there is no point in trying to hide your words or actions because God sees ALL. Everything will come out if not in your lifetime then on Judgement when you stand before God.

Be trustworthy in secret things so God can have full confidence that you will bring him good, not harm, all the days of your life.

Secret sins are the worst sins and the hardest to deal with, but be dealt with they must.  These are also the sins that more than likely trip us up the most. and Hebrews 12:1 states that we should drop all sin but especially that which trips us up to run the race that the Lord has given us to run. Doesn’t that sound like fun? Just to drop every sin like shedding clothing and just run the race that God has given us.  I wish I could do that as simply as it sounds, but secret sins mess me up every time.

When you are dealing with difficult areas of your walk with God, it helps to have at least one person whom you can go to and be completely open and honest.  A person that will hold you accountable in that area.  Someone that will love us enough to let us know when we are heading in the wrong direction.  You need at one person in every area that you are having difficulty in. This person is very important in becoming the woman that God wants you to be.

Now you need to deal decisively with anything that might hold you back. Secret Sin. Repeating Sin. Unforgiveness. These are just some of the things that will hold you back. Can you think of others?

You have to be determined in this process. Set you feet firmly upon the path of discovery and change. Say with enormous energy that nothing will prevent or dissuade you from the long road ahead.

Affirmation:

I bring God not Harm, all the days of my life!

 

Mother’s Day

The above poem says it all that a mother should be.  A mother is a special type of woman.  She’s not perfect, but tries as hard as she can to take care of the people in her realm of influence, to protect them from the outside as much as they can, and to teach them everything that their charges need to know to succeed in the world today.  Some say that God shows His earthly love through Mother’s.  I can happen to agree in most cases, but there are some cases where that is not the case I am afraid to say.

In the world today, A woman has to fill so many roles in the family  and in Society.  She is a woman of many talents. She is not only a Mother to the children, but sometimes a part time or even full time Bread Winner trying to bring in money for the family to live on, Family Schedule Keeper and Organizer, Meal Planner and Chef to shop for food and prepare that said food into good (no great) dishes that  EVERYONE likes {if that is even possible}, a Scholar in furthering her degree in college or any training at all, and lastly and not least being possibly a Wife to her husband and keeping him happy.

The first mother was Eve as shown in Genesis:

Genesis 3:20

“Then the man – Adam – named his wife Eve,

because she would be the mother of all who live.”

The next big thing of Mother’s of the Bible are shown in the Ten Commandments in Exodus:

Exodus 20:12

“Honor Your Father and Mother, Then you will live a long ,

full life in the land the Lord Your Go3d is giving you.”

There are several Proverbs about Mothers even.

Proverbs 1:8

“My child, listen when your father corrects you,

Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.”

Proverbs 10:1

 “A wise child brings joy to a father;

a foolish child brings grief to a mother.”

NOTE: Both JOY and GRIEF happen to each parent. The distinction is simply a poetic device.”

Proverbs 23:22

“Listen to your father, who gave you life,

and don’t despise your mother when she is old”

Proverbs  30:11

“Some people curse their father,

and do not thank their mother.”

Proverbs 30:17

“The eye that mocks a father and despises a mother’s instructions

will be plucked out by ravens of the valley and eaten by vultures.”

In Matthew, Jesus talks about who is His True Family-

Matthew 12:46-50

As Jesus was speaking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him?”.

Someone told Jesus, “Your mother and your brothers are outside, and they want to speak to you”

Jesus asked, “Who is my mother? Who are my brother?”

The he pointed to his disciples and said, “Look these are my mother and brothers.

“Anyone who  does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother!”

Jesus includes everyone who is doing the Father’s Will as part of His family so we are all connected in a spiritual way as well as our physical families.

Happy Mother’s Day.  God Bless All You Mother’s out there.  Take care and I’ll talk to you later.

I love you, MOM!!!  I dedicate this post to my mother, Gail Elizabeth Brenkert.

Names of God – Introduction

Ask anyone, “What are the names of God or Jesus?” and you will get very varied answers.  Some with say that God is the Father and Jesus is the Son and that is all that they are.  Others will say that God is the Father, The Great I AM, Our Master, Our Provider, Healer, and God Most High,: Jesus is the Son of God, Part of the Trinity, Healer, Lord, and Savior. The names of God and Jesus are so much more than just names.  To understand this concept all you have to do is open you heart and mind to these concepts.  I’m going to lead you on a journey to discover the meaning of their names, but unfortunately  most likely not all of them.  Even though I think and expect perfection from myself, I might miss a few because I am not in fact, perfect…LOL  Let the Journey Begin!!!!

Most of the names of God or Jesus are not really proper names like Cheryl is to me.  Their names are more like characteristics  or descriptions that tell you more about them so that you can know them better.  Some of the names are the same for both God and Jesus.  For example, both of them are called a form of “Lord”: God is called “LORD” and Jesus is called “My Lord”. I will get more into that at another time.

Exodus 3:14 KJV

God replied to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM, Say this to the people of Israel: I AM sent me to you.”

God also said to Moses, “Say this to the people of Israel: Yahweh, God of your ancestors – the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob – has sent me to you.

This is my eternal name,

my name to remember for all generations.”

God does have a proper name as you can see in the above scripture.  It is the Hebrew word “YHWH”.  In the Hebrew language the vowels are only spoken not written so the pronunciation and spelling are still in debate today. “Yahweh” and  “Jehovah” are just two examples of the proper name of God. Jehovah is a form of the Hebrew name of God that is used in only some translations of the Bible.  Synonyms of Jehovah are being used as nouns for example: Absolute Being, Allah, Father, and Almighty One.

Psalm 83:18 KJV

“That men may know that thou, whose name alone is JEHOVAH, art the Most High over all the earth”

Exodus 6:3 KJV

“And I appeared unto Abraham, unto Isaac, and unto Jacob, by the name of God Almighty, but by my name JEHOVAH was I not known to them.”

As you can see in the above verses from the King James version of the Bible, God names Himself, JEHOVAH.  Now the problem is that in later translations of the Bible such as the NLT and even the New King James, JEHOVAH is changed to “Lord” only in small upper case instead of BOLD UPPER CASE!  JEHOVAH is seen more often in the Bible joined with other titles or characteristics such as JEHOVAH Shalom meaning , “The Lord Our Peace.”

YHWH can also be turned into “Yahweh”. It is used about 6,828 times in the Bible.  It came to be regarded by the Jews in about c Bc 300 as “too sacred” to be spoken which is why the spelling and the way it is pronounced is still in some debate even unto this day. Just as JEHOVAH is translated into “Lord” in the English Bible, YAHWEH in the Hebrew Word is built around the words, “I AM!”  Now that is a different topic altogether.

Now we have to ask the question, “Is God’s name important?” Well, let’s look at the prayer that Jesus Christ gave us to prayer:

Matthews 6:9

“Our Father in the Heaven

Let your name be sanctified.”

Let’s also look at how Jesus himself, prayed to God:

John 12:29

“Father, glorify your name.”

In response, God spoke from heaven; saying:

“I have glorified it and will glorify it again.”

Jesus talks to God with respect, and reverence, and honor and places great importance on God’s name.  This sets the stage for us.  We, too, should treat the Father and the Son with respect, reverence and honor, and hold Him in a place of great importance in our lives.

Come join me on a journey into the individual names of God and Jesus and what they mean.  It will be interesting to see where it leads us……

3 Day Quote Challenge: Day 1

Thank you very much goes out to Stuart Tutt of Something to Stu Over for nominating me for this challenge.  I find that it is an interesting challenge especially for someone like me that doesn’t write/post very often.

The rules are simple and as follows:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you.
  2. Post a different quote for 3 days straight, and explain why each one appeals to you.
  3. Nominate at least two new bloggers each day

 

I’ve had an interesting life which has left me with a lot of negative thinking and feelings.  After a lot of seeing doctors over the years and research in God’s Word, I’ve come to the point that I need to change something from negative to positive if I want a more godly life. I started reading the book Deliver Me from Negative Self-Talk.

I chose the following quote:

“An intellectual is someone whose mind watches itself.”

– Albert Camus

This quote really made me stop and think. Thinking in and of itself is both very complicated and simple at the same time.  It is the way that the mind talks.  The book goes on to say that the act of thinking produces thoughts which turns into words leading to actions which creates character.  If your mind is like mine, sometimes it is really hard to even catch a single thought to focus on an turn them into words.

If you are always negative in your thoughts and actions then your life will be negative.  Positive thoughts and actions then will birth a positive life.  You have to change the way that you are thinking to change your character or life.  If I want to be more God-like, then I need to put more of God’s Word in my mind and heart and it will be reflected in my character.

 

Thank you to Stuart for letting me participate in this challenge.  I nominate the following bloggers for this challenge:

  1.  James Edgar Skye,  The Bipolar Writer
  2. Stephanie Jafta, GODINTEREST

For those I nominated, please understand you do not have to participate if you chose not to.  It’s just something fun and challenging.

Journal 2018 – Day 7 – Bipolar and Sexuality

Bipolar Disorder effects all areas of your life but one area I didn’t know it effected much was sexuality. The thing with sex and bipolar is that either you have it in spades and running over or you don’t have an active libido at all. I am of the later which is why I didn’t know it was part of the Bipolar Disorder. A friend of mine didn’t care whom she had sex with, or what kind of sex she had or with how many men she had it with at one time without any protection at all. This kind of reckless sexual activity is called hypersexual behavior is common in Bipolar disorder. Then there is the other side of the coin when another friend of mine had no interest in sex at all. She didn’t want to be touched in any way at all. Not even from her boyfriend. She was fine with cuddles and hugging and kissing, but going further than that made her run out of the door screaming as if she had been touched by a hot poker. As you can see neither one of these situations puts the person in a very good sexual position. The bad thing about the medications for Bipolar Disorder is that it can stop the hypersexual behavior of the Mania phase of the Bipolar disorder but in most cases it will  completely turn their libido off for good.

Some say that Bipolar disorder is the reason for sexual addiction. The two are often difficult to untangle. According to the National Alliance for Mental Illness (NAMI) article “Opening the Door on Hypersexuality,” the prevalence of in the people with bipolar disorder is on average 57%. It involves a significantly heightened sex drive resulting in things like “constantly thinking about sex, a preoccupation with pornography, an abundance of one-night stands, engaging in sex with multiple partners, having random sex, seeking out prostitutes or having multiple affairs even when in a committed relationship.”

Most of these sexual encounters don’t mean anything to the person with Bipolar.  They get momentary pleasure from the experience, but they just crave the act of sex.  They don’t really care where or how they get it.  There is no emotional element to these sex acts. When this disorder has disrupted a person’s life almost totally, that person might become a prostitute to hide their sexual appetite.  This way they  can have as much casual, meaningless sex they want.

People with Hypersexuallty are often more likely to try more risky sexual positions and experiences such as being tied up and blind folded. Masters and Servants are also games that can be played as well as the use of whips and chains.  There is one game that even I am willing to play and as stated above I’ve got no libido, and that game is Dirty Minds.  I’d check it out if you want a little fun.

I hopw that I have given you something to think about.  You can’t always judge a book by its cover.

Journal 2018 – Day 6 – Depression

Depression. Now that’s a difficult word there. Let’s start with the “official” definition and go from there. According to the National Institute of Mental Health Depression is a common but serious mood disorder. Some of the symptoms are persistent sadness, anxious or “empty” mood, feelings of hopelessness or pessimism, irritability, feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness, loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities, decreased energy or fatigue, moving or talking more slowly, feeling restless or having trouble sitting still, difficulty concentrating remembering or making decisions, difficulty sleeping, early morning awakening or oversleeping, appetite and/or weight changes, thoughts of death or suicide or suicide attempts, aches or pains, headache, cramps, or digestive problems, without a clear physical cause, and/or that do not ease even with treatment. The symptoms can be severe and affect how you feel, think, and handle your daily life. To be diagnosed with it, you have to have had the symptoms for over two weeks. Not everyone has to have all the symptoms. Some people experience only a few while others experience a lot more. It is the most common mental disorder, and it’s most likely caused by a combination of genetic, biological, environmental, and psychological factors.

There are several types of depression

Persistent Depressive Disorder (also called Dysthymia) – It last for at least two years. A person has major depressive episodes along with less severe symptoms.

Postpartum Depression Must more severe than “Baby Blues” ( a relatively mild depressive/anxiety episode that typically clears up within two weeks after giving birth). This is a full-blown Major Depression during pregnancy and/or after delivery. The feelings of extreme sadness, anxiety, and exhaustion that accompany this type of depression makes it extremely difficult for these new mothers to take care of daily tasks for themselves much less for their babies.

Psychotic Depression – This happens when a person has Major Depression along with some form of psychosis such as hearing or seeing upsetting things that others cannot hear or see (hallucinations) or have disturbing false fixed beliefs (delusions). This type’s symptoms typically have a depressive “these” such as delusions of poverty, illness, or guilt.

Seasonal Affective Disorder – It is characterized by the onset of depression in the winter because of the loss of natural sunlight and coming out of it in the spring when the sun comes out again. Winter depression is normally accompanied by increased sleep, social withdrawal , weight gain, and it predictably returns every year.

Bipolar Disorder – It is different from depression because it’s got mania episodes too, but a person with bipolar does experience extreme lows which are depressions, but they also experience extreme high or euphoric or irritable moods called “mania” or less severe form called “hypomania”

Now that’s that out of the way. It’s the dry stuff. The information stuff. Now we can have some fun….Well….to tell you truth, it’s really not that much fun living with depression. Most of the time you have okay days which are spend in partial dread of bad days.  Then bad days hit and your world is torn apart you don’t know when it is going to end.  It is more than sadness and disinterest. It is like falling down a deep, bottomless, smooth, stone sided well at the speed of light. All you can do is hold on and try not to loss your mind.  The only fun is when the mood swings liven up the place. They can change as slow as the gentle wind blows or as fast as a hurricane roars.  Sometimes my changed so often that if plotted it would look like an EKG.  LOL  The key is not going too high or low.

Well, that’s a good overview of depression.  Now I hope you have a basic understand.  If you have any questions, please leave me a common.