Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be – Intro

I am going through this book called Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be – a 90 Day  Guide to Living the Proverbs  31 Life by Donna Partow.  I’m going to tryGo to post at least three times a week from this journey that I am embargoing.   It stated that the next 90 days is going to past by you no matter how you spend them.  You can just mark time by doing nothing or you can, “strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance that race God has set before us.” (Hebrews 12:1 NLT)

Have you ever thought that the Proverbs 31 was a mythological creature or something that was out there and totally unattainable.  Donna says, “I thought she was a weapon spiritual leaders use to make all of us ordinary Christian women feel bad about ourselves.” People say that women of noble character are extremely hard to find and they are right, But then she actually met a woman who was a Proverbs 31 woman.  It was like she had just walked out of the Bible.  It showed her that becoming a Proverbs 31 woman was the only goal worthy of her life’s devotion.

Donna was invited to speak in Colombia and was asked to stay a few days by her host, Hector Torres at his aunt’s house at the base of the Andes Mountains.  Since she had never been to the area before, she went to a bookstore and found little to no information on the area.  What she did fine didn’t even tell her that the area had been torn apart by civil and drug wars for the last three decades.  It simple said: it’s too Dangerous!!! She was just a “little…..” apprehensive about the trip, but she went anyway.

Donna was very pleasantly  surprised when she met Hector’s Aunt, Beatriz Duenas.  She was such a picture of elegance, ease and bety.  She showed us around the breathtaking grounds and we talked amid the fruit bearing trees bursting with bananas, guavas, oranges, papayas, tangerines, avocados, and plantains.  She showed us  her coffee, trout pond, chicken coops, and even her worm farm.  All the property abounded with energy and productivity just like the Woman of the House.

After a wild spread of breakfast that included a variety of fresh-squeezed juices, eggs scrambled with tomatoes, peppers, and onions and freshly grown coffee of which it all came from the property, Beatriz would take a walk to her favorite place which was a small stone and wrought-iron chapel with wooden benches that looked centuries old.  Just by looking at her there you knew you were standing on holy ground.  She told us that she had spent hours here praying, reading, and meditating in this open-air sanctuary.

Beatriz’s story didn’t begin here but in 1950 when she married Jose. She was sixteen and he was nineteen.  A year later a baby was born and three daughters in good succession.  She worked well with Jose.  They worked together everyday in their auto parts store.  Even thought she was a teenager, she was great at business, and they prospered.  Soon they grew into a big corporation with multiple employees and satellite stores locations.  They were best friends, business partners, and lover’s for life.  “They were inseparable.”

What happened on January 23, 1984 changed all that forever.  At 6:30 pm Jose was on his way home.  He was driving along when suddenly his car was surrounded by six kidnappers. They took him out of the car and disappeared.  After two months, They demanded an outrageous amount of money to the tune of $30 million to release him.  By March 19 Beatriz paid the kidnappers one million dollars.

She never saw her husband again!

It almost broke her, but through the pain she begun looking for and seeking out God which led her to walk by faith.  She started attending a little church which provided her other Christians who helped comfort, encourage, and sustain her. She stayed in the mountain home of her husband to tend the garden and started planting money-producing fruit trees using funds from the rental properties he had started as investments.  She was starting to learn how to make it all work on her own.

Her first massive business venture was building four massive chicken coops, which now house 48,000 chickens.  She took out a 2nd mortgage to do it, but she doesn’t regret it at all.  It’s providing a steady income for the paradise and it will continue to do so in the future.

Beatriz then learned about the coffee industry. She read books and took classes.  Today, her coffee product help fill in the money gaps in the seasons of fruit and there are no chickens ready for market.  She even started a worm farm.  She says it’s not successful yet.  This just means it hasn’t been given enough time.  LOL

Donna says, “What I will always remember about Beatriz is not her thriving enterprises and the wisdom God gave her to develop multiple streams of income. What I will always remember is the overwhelming peace that permeated her countenance, her home, and her entire surrounding.” Donna states that the one word that would describe Beatriz would be “Lovely”. Donna commented on the way that there was not even an ounce of Bitterness or Self-pity when she talked regarding her losses.  All  Beatriz  would speak of was her gratitude to God. She was asked what her secret was and she replied, “Forgiveness,” she replied quickly, “It took me a long time to completely forgive the people that kidnapped my husband and robbed me of all that could have been. But the moment I did, the peace of God overcame me and it has not left.”

Beatriz’s parting words to Donna were, “Tell the women they must come to full confidence and assurance that what God has done for me, He can do for them also!” Donna also says, “Do not expect to be entirely transformed into Beatriz’s clone in the next ninety days. Not only is it impossible, it’s not even desirable. God has a completely, customized plan for your life.  Trust Him!!!!!

Welcome to the journey of Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be (BWGW)!

Tolerating the Devil?

I am amazed at the world today and it is not in a good way. I was reading Matthew Winter’s ‘What happened to tolerance?” and it brought it all to a head for me. I was not happy about it all and I have to have my say.

I was born in 1967. I was taught morals and what was right was right. What was wrong was wrong. Every man and woman no matter their skin tone deserved an equal pay and vote. I remember after homework and afternoon snack if the weather was nice and sometimes when it was not outside we would go until dinner was on the table or it was dark. Our toys were the dirt and the trees and the grass. We had play clothes and school clothes and church clothes, and you did not get them mixed up. You always went to church on Sunday, there just was no talking yourself out of it. You had church and school dances and plenty of outing to go to that kept you busy tell your of age to date. Then your in High School and the pressure’s on. How far do you let the boy go? Too far and your a slut not far enough and your a prissy. A girl just couldn’t win. If you had sex in high school you weren’t the kind to take home to mom. If you waited too long, the guy loses interest. Now I’m a PK, Preacher’s Kid, so I had it worst than most and It didn’t help when the second guy I ever dated came back to school and said I was a home run when we didn’t even kiss much less hold hands. I was so upset. It pretty much put me off dating till college. I will tell you for a date with a college guy I did walk 6 miles into town , and it was safe to do that. I got a ride back home, and I did get in trouble for sneaking out and that was in 1985.

Here’s a true story that will really show the times we live in. I’m in the 5th grade, two popular girls came up to me after class and kept asking me who I was gay with. I kept saying, “Well, Scott, Makes me laugh. and Eric, always had good jokes.” But it wasn’t until I said,” But my Mom makes me the happiest with these little notes that she leaves me all over the house.” They run off yelling at the top of their lungs, “Cheryl’s gay with her Mother!” I turned red and started to cry though I didn’t know why. I ran home that day tears rolling down my cheeks. I asked Mom about it and she didn’t know. This wasn’t new because to Mom, a French kiss was oral sex. So I went to GrandDad and that was when I found out there was another meaning to the word gay.

Now I’ve raised my children the best that I could in this world. There are now armed guards in their schools and metal detectors as well. My kids could not have metal lunch boxes or any metal at all except for keys to home. They were locked in during the day for their own security. These days we have school shooters killing our children in these locked down schools. Gangs run our streets to the point where it is safer to join a gang than it is to try to live on your own without their protection. There are a lot more places that children and even adults can’t go out of their homes to the corner store alone without fear of harm. Even in the country parts of Mississippi where I grew up I read of a man killing his neighbor just for his land because his neighbor wouldn’t sell to him. It is getting wrong in the world when brother is fighting brother over a piece of land. I want to tell them, “It’s all good. It all belongs to God!!!!!! It’s not yours anyway.”

We are in the End Times! The only thing wrong with the End Times is that God never said how long it would last. But if you really look around you will see without difficulty the prophecies coming true. Man is laying with Man. Woman is laying with woman. Babies are having babies because the government pays them more for the more kids they have despite the fact that they don’t know how to raise them or not have the room to house them properly, as well as can’t handle the number of children that they have. Young men turning to drug dealing because it’s easy money and dropping out of school to do it. More homeless Vets because the government can’t help them now that they are out of the service. This is NOT of God!!!!! We are NOT to Tolerate this. People are asking where is God. Well there is a song that says that, “That’s why God created you!” When are YOU going to start standing up and fighting for what God stands for instead of “Tolerating” the Devil? Are You all arm chair quarterbacks? When are You going to get into the game of life? On Whose side are You playing?

Jeremiah 29:11 Misunderstood?

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”

Jeremiah 29:11  (KJV)


In other versions of the Bible the word, “thoughts” are changed to the word, “plans”.  This seems like a straightforward, direct, no holds bar, statement on the outside.  Let us look on the inside.  This statement sounds out of context like God is talking to every single person individually.  Let’s take a look at Jeremiah 29:4 (KJV)) and test this fact;

“Thus saith the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, unto all that are carried away captives, whom I have caused to be carried away from Jerusalem unto Babylon;”

Do my eyes deceive me? Does that look like a one or all?  By George I think is talking to ALL His people instead of just one person at a time.  I guess God can get tired of saying the same thing over and over again.  (LOL)  So the you in Jeremiah 29:11 is not meant for an individual but for all of God’s people.  Isn’t it grand that God knows our thoughts before we do?

Okay, let’s look at something else that may surprise you even more.  There was a condition on this promise.  Let’s look at Jeremiah 29:10 (KJV);

“For thou saith the Lord, that after seventy years be accomplished at Babylon I will visit you, and perform my good word toward you, to causing you to return to this place.”

Did I read that right? God’s wasn’t coming right then?  He’s going to make His people wait?  Why?  Because it was better for His people?  How is waiting better for his people?  Maybe they needed to get their act together.  Maybe  they needed to grow during this time of captivity and learn things. The important thing is that after 70 years, God came to carry them away to  Jerusalem.  They had to go through the storm of Babylon before they can reap the glory of God.

The storms are going to come, but God will bring you through them.  I have found myself having  to go through the storm a lot more often than not before I got to where God wanted me to be.  Of course, that might be because I grew up learning things at the University of Hard Knocks and didn’t really start listening or paying attention to advice from others until I was in my 30’s and 40’s.  What can I say?  I’m a preacher’s kids…..LOL

Even though this was a “you-do / me-do”  from a very long ago, it is still in effect today.  All God wants us to do is LOVE HIM and put HIM FIRST IN OUR LIVES. OBEY HIM and, let HIM TAKE CONTROL for change.  I know how hard it is to GIVE CONTROL OVER TO GOD because it’s the  one area that I am having the most trouble in.  I Like my control (LOL).  But it’s better His Way!  He wants to love us and take care of us and have only good things for us instead of all the bad that is in the world today.  We are here to show Jesus to the World.  Are you showing Jesus or something/someone else?

Prayer:

God, how I love You!!  You are way too good for me.  Please forgive me of my sins.  Thank You for everything that You do for me.  Thank You for keeping me safe for all these years and for all the years to come.  Thank You for all the blessings that You have given me and anyone reading this and all the ones in the future.   You are the Great Healer, Lord.  Please restore health to me and take away this pain.  “I didn’t earn it.  I don’t deserve it, but You give Yourself away.”  (from the song, “Reckless Love”).  Praise be to the Father, The Son, and The Holy Sprit. In Jesus Name I Pray, Amen.

Have a Blessed Day!!!!