Smile! It’s a New Day in Fairyland

I know that I have been remiss in my writing to you. I made you a promise when I started this blog. I told you that I would write often and the last couple of months I only posted once that I can remember. I can tell you that last month was a bad month for me with depression. It didn’t help that at every time I looked at the blank screen, I got a headache because I could not think of but a few words to put on the screen. I didn’t want to do you the disservice of just a few words so instead, I didn’t do anything. Now I think I did you the more wrong, and for that I am sorry.

Well, Today it hit me like a train. Do you like questions and opinions. I love talking and giving my opinion. Also, how about I ask questions and answer them here on the blog. If you have a different answer, a way of handling something, or opinion, then you can comment and tell me, I’ll read them, then I’ll post them to the blog, and reply to them so we can get a real conversation going . This way you, my readers, can have a real say so in the blog. Maybe we can even spark a real DEBATE!!!!!!!

Now I will still write other pieces. You hopefully will comment on them as well. I love your comments, and I want them. They”re the only way I know how I am doing with the blog. I need your comments you could say

It has come to my attention that people have found “spieiling” errors in my posts. I try very hard to spell correctly. I have a spell checker on my computer, but that is not to say it’s without fault. If you find a spelling mistake in one of my posts, please comment with the word (first how I spelled it – and – correct spelling) example (bieing – being). Spelling has never been my strong suit.
I want you to know that I am a Christian and a Lady, and I will respect your opinion whether is differs from mine or not. I do expect to be treated with respect as well and talked to in a tone of decency. I will not post anger, hateful, crude, sex filled comments. This will not turn into a venting or nasty blog.
My basic belief is that God is my Father and Jesus is His Son and his death saved me from Death. I have accepted Jesus into my life as my Lord and Savior and asked God to forgive me of my sins. As it turns out, I practically have to do that every day due to the fact that I’m not perfect.

I may not agree 100% with the opinions of President Trump, but I stand behind him and our government, and our judicial systems though they may be flawed. I still believe that this is the best country in the WORLD! Finally, I know I’m going to hear about this one, but I am a REPUBLICAN through and through.

Now that we have that out of the way……..Let’ s talk!

My Favorite

You have them in every family: your favorite brother, sister, uncle, aunt, or even cousin. I could go on, but I won’t. (Lol) Mine happened to be an uncle and aunt pair on either side of my family. One that has been around me since I was little and one that I’ve just really noticed while I’ve been an adult. Let’s call the first one Charles and Leigh Ann and the other ones George and Dana.

Charles is not much older than me and has therefore has been more of a big brother to me than an Uncle.  Leigh Ann turned out to be Charles’ forever wife and came into my life more like when I was 10 years old.  They had a long engagement which I loved because even though Leigh Ann was a little older than Charles she still treated me like a little sister. This I thoroughly enjoyed.  I knew that I could talk my trouble her about anything that was of a womanly topic

Being an only child had not been much fun. I mean come on. I could not get away with anything. I couldn’t play the blame game. For example, Mom cleans the bathroom and I mess it up. Mom gets mad. “Cheryl! What did you do to this bathroom?” I can’t say, “Well, I didn’t do it. Tory did it!” Mom did not even believe in my invisible friend doing things and getting me in trouble. I was always getting into trouble, for stuff I did because I didn’t have anyone else to blame it on. It was not fair. But as my family says, “Who told you life was fair?”

Charles and Leigh Ann are down to earth Christian people that will help anyone if they can. They have always been there when I needed someone to talk to about anything. They have truly been on my side throughout growing up and even into adulthood. When I felt my world spinning around and  coming apart at the seams they have been there and talked me back from the ledge. I have not always done what I’ve said I would do, and I’ve done wrong towards them in the pasts, yet they have still stood by me. Please forgive me for the way that I have treated you in the past.   Thank you, Charles and Leigh Ann for all the things you have done for me. I love Y’all and you are always in my prayers.

Now onto George and Dana: These are two people that have surprised me in a lot of ways. My dad and I have had problems all of my life, and I am sorry that we could not solve those problems before he pasted away in 2011. Out of the blue George and Dana started talking to me recently and come to find out we have a lot to say to each other that I at least did not know. One of the things I learned that really surprised me was that they actually cared about me and was interested in what I was doing these days.

I have not always treated them right, and for that I’m sorry.  Please forgive for that.  Y’all are special, God-fearing people.  Before six months ago, I only talked to them at family reunions or functions which are not happening anymore now that my grandparents are dead. You see they like the Steelers or the Eagles. I don’t know which one. I’m a Bronco’s fan myself. (LOL)

It’s good to have family that you talk to regularly. You never know when one or all will be dead and out of your life. Last week, I got a some bad news about Charles. I started praying for my him and my whole family.  I’m posting this with the knowledge that he is doing a lot better. Praise be to the Lord. Pray does work. Pray and watch God show up and show out!

Let’s be Still for a Change!

 

Exodus 14:14

“The LORD will fight for you, you need only to be still.”

and

Psalm 46:10

“Be still and know that I am God!

I will be honored by every nation.

I will be honored throughout the

world.”

The above scriptures both talk about being still for God, but you are being still for two completely different reasons.

Exodus 14:14 talks about how the you don’t have to do the fighting because the Lord will do the fighting for you, all you have to do is be still. Stop fighting. Let the Lord do the fighting for you.  Stand down. Lay down your arms.  Back off. Take a vacation.  STOP THE FIGHTING! BE STILL FOR ONCE IN YOUR LIFE AND LET GOD HANDLE IT!

Psalm 46:10 talks about being still in Spirit and getting to know the Spirit of God.  It is about tuning the world out and letting God in.  The only way that this can happen is by being still and letting yourself be quite.  You have to be able to concentrate on one thing at a time and that would be God.  CAN YOU BE STILL? SILENT?  CAN YOU LET GOD IN?

Is it really such a foreign concept in today’s society to be still?  To slow down? To stop and do nothing for a while?  Even for a minute? Can you do one thing at a time?  I know that it is hard for me to admit that it is hard for me to do just one thing  at time, but I am getting better at it the more I try.

You should try doing one thing at a time some time.  Try praying to God for 5 minutes without doing anything else one day.  When your mind starts to wonder, bring it back to God.  Keeping doing that over and over until your mind stops wondering. Pray to yourself or out loud. It doesn’t matter. Just spend time with your Heavenly Father only.  It’s not as easy as it sounds in our fast pace world unless you put forth the effort to do it.

You know what’s great about putting forth the effort to be still,  you let God do the fighting for you and you get to  know who God is which will allow you to grow more than you ever thought you could in ways that you could never have dreamed of in a million years. Great things will follow you if you let God have the reins of your life because God is working a great work in you, and He will be working it  until the day that Christ Jesus returns. Look it up for yourself.  It’s written right there in the Bible in black and white and red.  Jesus said it in RED so it MUST BE TRUE!!!!!  Not only are Jesus’s words in Red but they are covered in his blood.  You and I are covered in his blood.  Let us all be still together and Let God do His thing!

The Almighty Comma

“,” What is up with this little piece of punctuation?  It’s not real big! It’s actually quite small. But it gives people problems all over the place.  It is one of the most over/under used pieces of punctuations in the books.  Either a person over uses or under uses, but not both, and no one knows why. (I heard that on the radio) I just got through reading a nice little blog at Daily Writing Tips.  It was about using the comma in the right way to save your writing.

Can you figure out what’s wrong with these sentences?  And “YES!”, there is something wrong with every one. Take a good hard look at each one, and you will be able to come up with what is wrong. Here is your chance:

  1. If you think that you can get the drop on me you are highly mistaken.
  2. Sara and Bella are going to the store, then go get their nails done.
  3. It is a constant battle in keeping the ocean from taking the sand, and wherever possible, building up the dunes as we can.
  4. I think movies, like Gone with the Wind, are a great example of cinematography and sparks discussions about our history.
  5. I have to get this information to Betty at her home, by noon, or she will look stupid at the meeting this afternoon.

The Answers:

  1. If you think that you can get the drop on me, you are highly mistaken.
    1. As you read the sentence you know that something is wrong.  Read it again, slowly this time, and you will find that there are two parts to this sentence.
    2. Once part is a partial sentence and a the main concept.
    3. Does the partial adds meaning to the sentence? If yes, then you need to set it off with a comma.  If no, then you add an end punctuation and let it stand on it’s own.
  2. Sara and Bella are going to the store then go get their nails done.
    1. As you read this sentence, you see that you have two verbs and two subjects only on one side of the connector (then).
    2. Since the subject of the second part of the sentence is in the first part there is no comma needed.
  3. It is a constant battle in keeping the ocean from taking the sand and, wherever possible, building up the dunes as we can.
    1. It looks like they are trying to intend a parenthetical phase, and it didn’t come across right.
    2. The comma is also  saying that there are two complete sentences here which is not true.
    3. The sentence says the parenthetical phase is “and wherever possible”, but it really is “wherever possible”.
    4. The test for a parenthetical phrase is that you temporarily take one word out at a time and see if the sentence still makes sense until you have tested every which way and then you will know which way to go.
    5. Since “and” is not part of the Parenthetical phrase, the comma comes after and another one comes behind the phrase to set it apart from the sentence.
  4. I think movies like Gone with the Wind are a great example of cinematography and sparks discussions  about our history.
    1. The commas setting “like Gone with the Wind” tell us that the sentence can do without it.  Can it?  NO!
    2. It is referring to a type/category of films and is therefore essential to the sentence
    3. It needs no commas because it needs to be an active part of the sentence.
  5. I have to get this information to Betty at her home by noon, or she will look stupid at the meeting this afternoon. 
    1. The using of commas in the listing of the first three items is not necessary and makes things messy.
    2. The use of the verbs “to”, “at”, and “by” move the sentence along.
    3. Because there are two complete sentences with an or, you place a comma before the or and that is all.

Difficulty often leads to Beauty

My friend and I were watching TV and eating Dove candy one night when I came across the following quote in a Dove candy wrapper.

Difficult roads often lead to Beautiful destinations.”

Jetta L from Massachusetts

It really spoke to me because I have had a not so good life for the most part.  I have gone through physical, sexual, emotional, mental, and verbal abuse as well as being homeless twice, raped three times,  had an abortion because of a rape, Bipolar II, PTSD, Schizo-affective Disorder, trying to raise my kids as best as I could while being single after my last two divorces trying to take care of my mental issues and myself all at the same time – Unfortunately, the kids were the ones to suffer more than I did, living in a park, living in the streets, trying to hold down a job while dealing with almost suicidal depression, being on drugs (been cleaned since 24January1999) – Crystal Meth and Cocaine, (Not Crack,) and also moving from family member to family member because I was such a rebellious and hard to handle child. (It was not fun.)  I would not listen to anyone, especially if you were a man.  My granddad would say that I could only learn things through the University of Hard Knocks.  At first I thought it was a real university , like Ole Miss, but then I learned the truth, meaning that I was hard headed and could only learn by doing and making the mistake myself.  No one could just tell me about how to do or not to do something.  I had to learn it on my own.

Being the red flag in the tug of war of hatred between my two families didn’t help me at all. You would think that I would be good at least on negotiation, but sadly no. I am just good at staying in the background and working behind the scenes.   Now, I’m only in touch with a 2-4 members on both sides, but for the most part, I’m the black sheep and not to be associated with them at all.  They don’t know how hard that is on me.  Don’t get me wrong.  I still love them and lift them up in prayer ever day, but I would like to talk to them and see what they’re up to every so often.  I tried with one of my cousins a couple years ago, but it ended almost as soon as it began.  I guess some of it is my part because I have not stayed in touch, but now I don’t know their numbers except one and I have tried It several times with no call back as of right now.

I am finally on good medication and in a good place. I am in therapy again, but this time I really like this person and the way that the sessions are going.  I knot that this is not an over night process, but then again it didn’t happen  all in  one night.  It took years for all the stuff to happen and affect me so I guess that it will take me a long time to get me free.  I am facing my demons head-on now, and my difficulties are turning into beauty. I finally like myself and know that God loves me.  I know that God is my Father and Jesus is my Lord and Savior.  Jesus loves me so much that if He had to die again just for me, He would. I know that I am going to heaven, and I am trying to serve Jesus in this lifetime as well.

You know Jesus and  God love you too.  Jesus would climb back on that Cross and die again for you. Just for you!  That says a lot.  You are worth that much to Him. God is the Father of all Mankind.  He is the Creator.  He spoke everything into creation, not just some things! Jesus is His Son and part of the Godhead.  His was a virgin birth. He taught for 3 years then died on the cross between two thieves.  One was saved and went to heaven with Jesus and the other one didn’t.  Jesus was raised from the dead three days later and after revealing himself to many people, He went up to Heaven and sits at the right hand of God.

Do you want to go to Heaven or do you want to be like the other thief and try to swim in the Lake of Fire?

Turn your Difficulty into Beauty with God and Jesus Christ!

“For as you think in your heart, so you are!”

This is a powerful Proverb. It says it all. Proverb 23:7 tells us in plain English that everything is tied into our thoughts and what we are thinking at this very moment. What are you thinking right now? Does it matter? I mean really matter in and to your life at this very moment?  Does it? The answer is a resounding “YES!”

People don’t realize that what they think dictates everything else about them: mood, feelings, words, attitude, behavior, and even actions and therefore reactions.  Your thoughts and therefore your imagination shapes your life.  If you want to change any thing at all about you, you have to start with changing your thinking it first.

Let’s take the number one thing that almost everyone knows about or has tried at least once in their lives: Dieting.  There are so many diets out there that it is hard to choose one. It is just crazy. You don’t know which one will work for you.

Of course, if you are anything like me you choose the one that will cause the least amount  of change to your routine and food intake or eating habits and the easiest to do and if it fits into your budget.  You pick a pill.  Maybe it works for a while so you lose the weight you wanted to and you stop taking the pill. All of a sudden you start gain the weight right back.  You go back on the diet again, but this time it doesn’t work. What do you do? You look for the Next Diet…

Again, you go for the one that offers little change or effort, but doesn’t work.  You are not a gym person so what are you going to do.  You can always jump on the diet bandwagon of those diets where you have to buy their food and never cook your own food again.  Is that what you really want? Are you ready to face the truth? Now?

You need to change your thinking! Then you will lose weight.  Start living healthy, and whole lives. Do some sort of exercise program.  It does not have to be at a gym.  It can be as simple as a yoga/video workout at home. Study and read the Bible about being healthy. It has a lot of things to say about and fill you thoughts with all those good thoughts.  Pray and God will help fill you mind with good thoughts too.

I’ve not had a very good life, but it’s made me the woman I am today.  I was (and still am to a point) a very angry woman. (God’s still working on me.  Praise the Lord) I am now in my 50s and it has taken me until now to know that negativity will slowly kill you.  It will eat you up from the inside.  You can’t love if you are always negative.  You will be miserable in your own little bit of hell and make everyone around you miserble too. There is no hope there either. There is only fear and despear. There is hate there too.  Do you want that?

I don’t want that anymore, but I backslide sometimes and God corrects me sternly, but patiently.  I am blessed with a housemate that is very humble, kind, caring, and forgiving of my faults.  She has helped me more than she will ever know.  She has taught me and most likely will teach me a lot more in the future.  I just pray that I am such a good friend to her.  At least I try to be.

Now Positive thinking is something to grab a hold of  and not let go.  If you start to fill you mind with Bible verses and positive quotes and thoughts which you share with all your friends, you will push all those negative thoughts out of your head then your mood, feeling, words, attitude, behavior, actions and even reactions will change in a more positive way.  You just might start loving people and finding hope again.  People will start to see the change in you, and start gravitating toward you instead of away.  You will get a pep in your step and be a happier person all around.

Don’t worry……Be Happy!

 

 

 

Today is the Time to Make Time for Time

We live in a time driven world with no time for time.  We run around doing stuff as quickly as we can with no time for anything else.  We go here just long enough to get what we want done and not a minute more, then off to the next place for again just the right amount of time again.  Are we nothing more than rats on wheels going no where?  I am constantly working on something, all the time, with no time just to sit and think, much less read a book.  I have actually had to stop myself in the middle of doing something to turn off the TV, and take a moment to actually make time for time.  And Breathe for a second.

I remember a time in which we didn’t turn on the TV until after noon or ever as late as 7 PM and turned it off at 11 PM because the programming was done.  But now the TV runs  24/7 around the world and around meIt’s like I can’t do anything without it blaring in the background.  I know that I grew up with constant music around me, but why am I now drawn to the TV.  I I on’t watch it foghtrighr any value.  Most of the time I put on reruns that I have already seen so Ican look up from whatever I’m doing and know right where they are in the story.  I need to get back to the music.  Music is forever!

Not only is the TV a grabber of time for time sake, so is Facebook.  I had so many people that I followed that I could not get through everything that they posted and I would get frustrated by it nearly everyday, or I would get fed up with the trash that people would post.  People would get mad at me for not seeing what they posted. or not responding to them fast enough or at all.  I finally had to stop looking at it at all.  I just didn’t want to spend all my day to try to keep up with everyone else’s lives.  I want to live my life! Twitter is just as bad but Instagram is better because it’s about pictures and not so much about talking.

We have to be careful about running out of time and wearing our bodies out.  We have to take time to smell the flowers and slow down.  We have to make up our minds what is important to us and where we really need to spend our energy, but we need to make time for time.  If we don’t slow down, we will burn ourselves down.

This is where God comes into the picture.  If we start out our day with at least 30 minutes of quiet time and prayer with God and ask for His guidance for the day, then we will be able to have a plan for the day and be able to handle whatever is thrown at us that day.    If we put God first, then the world can go jump in the lake.  If you know Christ and have him as you Lord and Savior, then you are a Winner cause you’ve read the end of the book.

But it first starts with us making time for time.