“For as you think in your heart, so you are!”

This is a powerful Proverb. It says it all. Proverb 23:7 tells us in plain English that everything is tied into our thoughts and what we are thinking at this very moment. What are you thinking right now? Does it matter? I mean really matter in and to your life at this very moment?  Does it? The answer is a resounding “YES!”

People don’t realize that what they think dictates everything else about them: mood, feelings, words, attitude, behavior, and even actions and therefore reactions.  Your thoughts and therefore your imagination shapes your life.  If you want to change any thing at all about you, you have to start with changing your thinking it first.

Let’s take the number one thing that almost everyone knows about or has tried at least once in their lives: Dieting.  There are so many diets out there that it is hard to choose one. It is just crazy. You don’t know which one will work for you.

Of course, if you are anything like me you choose the one that will cause the least amount  of change to your routine and food intake or eating habits and the easiest to do and if it fits into your budget.  You pick a pill.  Maybe it works for a while so you lose the weight you wanted to and you stop taking the pill. All of a sudden you start gain the weight right back.  You go back on the diet again, but this time it doesn’t work. What do you do? You look for the Next Diet…

Again, you go for the one that offers little change or effort, but doesn’t work.  You are not a gym person so what are you going to do.  You can always jump on the diet bandwagon of those diets where you have to buy their food and never cook your own food again.  Is that what you really want? Are you ready to face the truth? Now?

You need to change your thinking! Then you will lose weight.  Start living healthy, and whole lives. Do some sort of exercise program.  It does not have to be at a gym.  It can be as simple as a yoga/video workout at home. Study and read the Bible about being healthy. It has a lot of things to say about and fill you thoughts with all those good thoughts.  Pray and God will help fill you mind with good thoughts too.

I’ve not had a very good life, but it’s made me the woman I am today.  I was (and still am to a point) a very angry woman. (God’s still working on me.  Praise the Lord) I am now in my 50s and it has taken me until now to know that negativity will slowly kill you.  It will eat you up from the inside.  You can’t love if you are always negative.  You will be miserable in your own little bit of hell and make everyone around you miserble too. There is no hope there either. There is only fear and despear. There is hate there too.  Do you want that?

I don’t want that anymore, but I backslide sometimes and God corrects me sternly, but patiently.  I am blessed with a housemate that is very humble, kind, caring, and forgiving of my faults.  She has helped me more than she will ever know.  She has taught me and most likely will teach me a lot more in the future.  I just pray that I am such a good friend to her.  At least I try to be.

Now Positive thinking is something to grab a hold of  and not let go.  If you start to fill you mind with Bible verses and positive quotes and thoughts which you share with all your friends, you will push all those negative thoughts out of your head then your mood, feeling, words, attitude, behavior, actions and even reactions will change in a more positive way.  You just might start loving people and finding hope again.  People will start to see the change in you, and start gravitating toward you instead of away.  You will get a pep in your step and be a happier person all around.

Don’t worry……Be Happy!

 

 

 

Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be – Day 5

Choose to Focus on the Positive

Proverbs 31:10-11

`”A woman of noble character who can find?

      She is worth far more than rubies

her husband has full confidence in her

       and lacks nothing of value”

Philippians 4: 4-9

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all.  The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the Peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice.  And the God of peace will be with you.”

If you are a capable woman, there are two thing that you don’t do, and that is complain and give up.  They look at the situation from all direction and either take charge and come up with a plan to overcome the problem or have enough faith in God and Jesus Christ to accept that there are some things you can not change.

Sometimes we feel like an island, all alone on an island, but this is just not true.  We touch and leave our mark on everything around you.  The best attitude that we can gift to the people around us is to be optimistic with a can do attitude.  We have to realize that our physical health, emotional well-being are all tied up with a nice bow with our mental state.  If one of them is whacky, then all of them are out of whack. Scientific research backs this up, study after study: laughter and joy are healers, and stress as well as  negativity are killers and destroyers of the spirit and soul. In a more comprehensive study it states that people who are positive live longer than people who are always negative, about 30 years.

The Bible, though, said it first:

Proverbs 17:22t

A cheerful heart is good medicine,

but a broken spirit saps a person’s strengths.

Now, let’s talk about how we treat people.  The golden rule in how we are suppose to treat other people is that we love them and treat them the way we want to be treated.  By looking for the good and treating everyone with kindness, you will find that they will treat you better and their best will come out and shine for all to see.

The same is fully realized in circumstances also due to fact that they are highly influenced by people.  Just like there is good in people if you look, you can bring out the good even if it is merely the opportunity to become a more compassionate, wiser or patient person.  Always look for the positive and the lesson.  The Bible tells us to “Seek and ye shall find.” (Matthew 7:7)

If all you ever do is look at the negative side of this world, don’t be surprised if that is all you get.  It is up to you and how you see the world around you.  Your glass can be half-full with the hope of Christ or half-empty with the doom of this world and by giving yourself over to Satan. Be happy and you can see all  that is right with the world, live longer, happy, healthy lives or you can be miserable for the rest of your life.

There are several problems with being negative all the time.  It is that it loves company by making all the people around you unhappy.  Your perspective will bring you down and you will be depressed all the time.  It will rob you of your peace and your joy.  It will ruin your health as well., and erase years from you life.

An enormous step in the journey to becoming the woman that God wants you to be is by learning to discipline our minds to focus on what’s optimism and right than what’s wrong in this world.

Roman 12:1

“Be Transformed by the renewing of your mind”

You mind is the BATTLEFIELD!  Get that straight right now. What is going on in your mind will decides your attitudes, beliefs, actions.  It can either help you or hinder you. You can’t be a fence sitter in this. Being POSITIVE is the GOAL! By renewing your mind with positive personal statements of God’s Truth, your thoughts become your ally instead of being against you.

The reasons why the daily AFFIRMATIONS are vitally important is because they help feed your mind positive statements of God’s Truth. You need to do more than read them one or twice and be done with them.  What you really need to do is recite them over and over and over again until you are saying them in your sleep and let them transform you from the inside out.

The most wondrous things will stop to happen as you fill your mind with God’s truth and all the blessings that He has done in your life and desires to do in the future, the negativity  of the world around you will eventually get washed away.

New positive thoughts leads changes in attitude.  Gradually, as the attitude turns so does the words you speak and the way you respond to the situations that the world throws at you.  Your behavior and the actions you take also change.  Just as an example, “You won’t yell as much!” LOL  The best part of becoming more positive is that the people around you will respond to you differently and your circumstances will begin to change for the better.  You will find yourself in a positive cycle of blessing.

AFFIRMATION: I choose to focus on the positive, especially the truth of God’s Word; therefore my life is filled with positive outcomes.

Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be – Day 1&2

Place Your Full Confidence in God/ Commit Yourself to Time Alone with God

Scripture of Week to Memorize

“A Wife of Noble Character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her Husband Has full confidence in her

and lacks nothing of value.”

Proverbs 31:10-11

 

Passage of Day to Read – Day 1

“For your Maker is your Husband —

the Lord Almighty is His name —

the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer:

he is called the God of all the earth.

The Lord will call you back

as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit —

 a wife who married young,

only to be rejected” says your God.

Isaiah 54:5-6

Passage to Read – Day 2

Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.

Simon and his companions went to look for , and when they found him, they exclaimed: “Everyone is looking for you!”

Jesus replied, “Let us go somewhere else — to the nearby villages — so I can preach there also. That is why I have come.”

So he traveled throughout Galilee, preaching in their synagogues and driving out demons.

Mark 1:35-39

Day 1

Today the trait  “noble” is harder to find more than ever before.  Let’s define it first.  It means dignified and gracious.  In the Amplified Bible the word for noble is rendered “capable, intelligent, and virtuous.” Such a woman would definitely be hard to find in the world today. Are you such a woman?  Am I?  Not yet, but I am working on it.  Work on it with me. 

We are intelligent, dignified, virtuous, capable, gracious women who fill with full confidence in those whose around and in whom rely on us most no matter whom that shall be. People around cam have total confidence in us because our confidence rests in God and we live appropriately.

What’s the ultimate sign that someone loves you?  It is that they would lay down their life for you. Well, God has shown his love for us. Jesus laid down his life to make sure that someday in the future each of us will be special guests at the ultimate wedding in heaven, when Jesus holds the celebration for the church as his eternal bride. (see Revelations 21)

Don’t focus on human feedback.  Focus on your relationship with you Heavenly Husband and live to please Him.  During God’s metamorphose of your life, You will become a even more beautiful bride and a woman of noble character that will in the end bring her praise from the people most important.  It will not happen over night, but enjoy the inner satisfaction that come from becoming the woman God wants me to be.

Day 2

Prayer is your direct line to God and is so important that you should have a special place that is only yours and God’s.  Let it be your Pray Closet ( oasis, corner, space, or just plan area) that is set aside just for your time with God.

Henri Nouwen said,

“Discipline is the human effort to  the space  in which

God can be generous and give us what we need. “

 

According to Proverbs 31 the husband is to have “full confidence” in his wife. “Confidence comes in a relationship from investing time in that relationship.”  You have to communicate in that relationship. So that for God to have full confidence in you, you have to talk to Him and obey him.

“God wants us to stand out as woman who know we have something of value.  If you want to have something valuable  to offer the world, we must have something of value to offer.” The value we are talking about is more than material value.  See this  world puts dollars and cents on everything.  They put it on human lives. Yes, it’s still legal in some countries.  But I’m talking about investing your time in seeking and exploring heavenly treasures such as knowledge of Scripture, and the power to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit, spiritual insight, ability to carry the presence of God with us where go,

Do you want to be an inspiration to the people that you meet and to everyone around you and mean something to you? Yes, you do! The only way you can do that is by putting God first in your life and talking to Him first thing in the morning?

Bruce Wilkison said,

“I have yet to find a respected leader throughout history who had devotions at night.”

Morning talks with God set to tone for the day.  If you talk to God first thing in the morning, God can also order your life. I  ask Him what He wants me to do that day and He lets me know.

I have found that I have the worst days when I am rushed out the door and miss my time with God.  It’s my own fault because I didn’t hear my alarm, but my day is just no good.  Now on those I try to make time for God and then after that my day does seem to get better.  I know how that sounds, but it is true!

Before you meet with husband, , before you face your family,  before fix breakfast, before deal with the whole world, before you absolutely anything, start your day our right by having a meeting with God.

I challenge you to take the first 30 minutes or more every day for 2 weeks straight to talk  to God. Then leave me a comment and let me know how you feel.  I know that God have worked miracles in my life just because I spend time talking to Him.

Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be – Intro

I am going through this book called Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be – a 90 Day  Guide to Living the Proverbs  31 Life by Donna Partow.  I’m going to tryGo to post at least three times a week from this journey that I am embargoing.   It stated that the next 90 days is going to past by you no matter how you spend them.  You can just mark time by doing nothing or you can, “strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance that race God has set before us.” (Hebrews 12:1 NLT)

Have you ever thought that the Proverbs 31 was a mythological creature or something that was out there and totally unattainable.  Donna says, “I thought she was a weapon spiritual leaders use to make all of us ordinary Christian women feel bad about ourselves.” People say that women of noble character are extremely hard to find and they are right, But then she actually met a woman who was a Proverbs 31 woman.  It was like she had just walked out of the Bible.  It showed her that becoming a Proverbs 31 woman was the only goal worthy of her life’s devotion.

Donna was invited to speak in Colombia and was asked to stay a few days by her host, Hector Torres at his aunt’s house at the base of the Andes Mountains.  Since she had never been to the area before, she went to a bookstore and found little to no information on the area.  What she did fine didn’t even tell her that the area had been torn apart by civil and drug wars for the last three decades.  It simple said: it’s too Dangerous!!! She was just a “little…..” apprehensive about the trip, but she went anyway.

Donna was very pleasantly  surprised when she met Hector’s Aunt, Beatriz Duenas.  She was such a picture of elegance, ease and bety.  She showed us around the breathtaking grounds and we talked amid the fruit bearing trees bursting with bananas, guavas, oranges, papayas, tangerines, avocados, and plantains.  She showed us  her coffee, trout pond, chicken coops, and even her worm farm.  All the property abounded with energy and productivity just like the Woman of the House.

After a wild spread of breakfast that included a variety of fresh-squeezed juices, eggs scrambled with tomatoes, peppers, and onions and freshly grown coffee of which it all came from the property, Beatriz would take a walk to her favorite place which was a small stone and wrought-iron chapel with wooden benches that looked centuries old.  Just by looking at her there you knew you were standing on holy ground.  She told us that she had spent hours here praying, reading, and meditating in this open-air sanctuary.

Beatriz’s story didn’t begin here but in 1950 when she married Jose. She was sixteen and he was nineteen.  A year later a baby was born and three daughters in good succession.  She worked well with Jose.  They worked together everyday in their auto parts store.  Even thought she was a teenager, she was great at business, and they prospered.  Soon they grew into a big corporation with multiple employees and satellite stores locations.  They were best friends, business partners, and lover’s for life.  “They were inseparable.”

What happened on January 23, 1984 changed all that forever.  At 6:30 pm Jose was on his way home.  He was driving along when suddenly his car was surrounded by six kidnappers. They took him out of the car and disappeared.  After two months, They demanded an outrageous amount of money to the tune of $30 million to release him.  By March 19 Beatriz paid the kidnappers one million dollars.

She never saw her husband again!

It almost broke her, but through the pain she begun looking for and seeking out God which led her to walk by faith.  She started attending a little church which provided her other Christians who helped comfort, encourage, and sustain her. She stayed in the mountain home of her husband to tend the garden and started planting money-producing fruit trees using funds from the rental properties he had started as investments.  She was starting to learn how to make it all work on her own.

Her first massive business venture was building four massive chicken coops, which now house 48,000 chickens.  She took out a 2nd mortgage to do it, but she doesn’t regret it at all.  It’s providing a steady income for the paradise and it will continue to do so in the future.

Beatriz then learned about the coffee industry. She read books and took classes.  Today, her coffee product help fill in the money gaps in the seasons of fruit and there are no chickens ready for market.  She even started a worm farm.  She says it’s not successful yet.  This just means it hasn’t been given enough time.  LOL

Donna says, “What I will always remember about Beatriz is not her thriving enterprises and the wisdom God gave her to develop multiple streams of income. What I will always remember is the overwhelming peace that permeated her countenance, her home, and her entire surrounding.” Donna states that the one word that would describe Beatriz would be “Lovely”. Donna commented on the way that there was not even an ounce of Bitterness or Self-pity when she talked regarding her losses.  All  Beatriz  would speak of was her gratitude to God. She was asked what her secret was and she replied, “Forgiveness,” she replied quickly, “It took me a long time to completely forgive the people that kidnapped my husband and robbed me of all that could have been. But the moment I did, the peace of God overcame me and it has not left.”

Beatriz’s parting words to Donna were, “Tell the women they must come to full confidence and assurance that what God has done for me, He can do for them also!” Donna also says, “Do not expect to be entirely transformed into Beatriz’s clone in the next ninety days. Not only is it impossible, it’s not even desirable. God has a completely, customized plan for your life.  Trust Him!!!!!

Welcome to the journey of Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be (BWGW)!